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In today’s world , it’s essential that we empower our children with the right knowledge of good and bad touch.Since my daughter joined her preschool at an early age, I as a mother, was very conscious and concerned about her safety. The concern was not just limited to school hours but also includes family celebrations, hobby classes, and other places as well. This happened because I was quite sure that my little one will meet a lot of different people – both in my presence or otherwise . So it became imperative for me to talk to my daughter about the differences between good touch and bad touch.
And let’s face it, not everyone will have the same sense of concern for kids and they won’t protect them every time. In fact, some can even cause some kind of harm and might touch the little one inappropriately.
Tips to explain the difference between good and bad touch
One in five parents of preschool going children say they never spoke about inappropriate touching. The most common reasons include they don’t want to scare the child .Hence, here are a few tips which I took into consideration while helping my kid understand the difference between good touch and bad touch.
Build a carefree bond –
You have to build a bond of trust with your little one from an early age itself. You should make them understand that you are always present for them, and you even believe their thoughts, and trust them enough that they can share anything with you. Your kid must trust you enough to confide in you.
Always expect questions from your child. Don’t react and embarrass kid if the questions are silly .Never feel ashamed of your child’s curiosity. You need to listen empathically and sensitively. You can answer them depending on your child’s comprehension, maturity and age.
Teach body parts –
As a parent you have to help your kid feel comfortable at whatever they are wearing. You have to give them ownership, and this must start at an early age itself. Teach children proper names for all body part and use correct language for anatomy . If you’re uncomfortable and start making up names about body parts, they will have discomfort as well.
Follow the swimsuit rule –
You have to know this rule, and tell your little one the same. The swimsuit rule is that no person can touch body parts that are covered under the swimsuit. And if they ever feel that somebody has ever touched them there, teach them to report the same to elderly. To help my daughter with this I posted a few charts on the wall and explained these little things to her daily in a fun way.
Tell them that they can and they should say NO:
When your kid has understood what is bad and good touch, help them understand how to refuse and speak out loud about the issues. They must learn to firmly say a ‘No’ or ‘Stop’. Also, teach your child to get away from that place as soon as they can.
Do not force affection on kids:
Never force a lot of affection on your child, be it your own or someone else’s. If ever any relative is offering a warm hug or a kiss, your child should appreciate it on their own. If they aren’t comfortable with the same, don’t force much.
Keep the right tone
Parents may avoid the topic sometimes thinking that children are too young and they can get scared. Having said this, I have started the same with my daughter at a very early age. I started asking her questions quite often, like when and with whom they went to the bathroom in preschool. But all these questions were asked by me in the most casual tone only.I tried to keep these conversations happen naturally, like during playtime or dinner table.
Being a parent, you have to teach your kid all little precautions and keep them prepared about the incidents. Your role is monumental, and it’s your duty to keep your child emotionally, mentally, and physically secure.
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