How to handle Your tween first crush

 3,356 total views,  57 views today

If your tween has a crush, it is a sign that nature has taken its course. The safest thing about this tween crush is it doesn’t last for a very long time. But for Parents it is natural for them to worried. As a supporting parent, they should try to reassure them that such feelings are part of growing up and it is completely to feel this way.

Below are a few tips that can help deal with tweens’ crushes.

Validate feelings

As an adult, it is very well known that crushes do not develop into actual relationships. However, it is not what the kids feel. Parents should not make jokes, tease or ignore the tweens’ feelings. This will only bring more distance between the parents and the tween.


The best way to keep the communication line open is to listen and keep the tweens talking. This is the best way of keeping the trust between the parents and the tween alive.

Healthy relationships

Talking to kids about their crush provides an opportunity to teach them about healthy relationship goals. Ask what are the things they like about their crush and advice on what they should look for in their significant other like kindness, trust, and respect.

Dealing with peer pressure

A mere misconception about school life is that cool kids should have love interests that drive the tweens to have one of their own. Parents should teach how to deal with peer pressure by being comfortable in their skin to keep things smoother.

Set limits

If relationships with the crush become serious then parents should set boundaries. Limiting the amount of time spent on phone calls, texting, and reminding them of their other responsibilities at home and school so that they do not get off track.

Do not tell

If the parents find out that their kids have a crush then they should not go around telling others about it or commenting in front of someone else. This breaks the trust the tween has in the parents.


The first crush will stay in their minds forever which can affect how they form future love interests in the future. Parents can be supportive and understandable and help them with the true goals of finding a love interest and moving on positively.

I’m participating in #BlogchatterA2Z

Do read my previous article in these series of : “Parenting TweenS”

A: A transformative age called tweens

B: Parenting Tweens: A Balancing Act

C: Connecting with tweens :Emotionally and Physically

One Reply to “How to handle Your tween first crush”

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *